How To Be Confident In Any Situation

  • Published: 29 July 2019
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    For many men, Don Draper is the epitome of confidence. What most people don’t realize is that confidence actually comes in two flavors. There is the external confidence that you project, which can make closing deals, making friends or seducing happen more naturally. There is also the internal confidence you feel which is how comfortable you are in any given situation.

    In this video, we’re going to analyze what Don can teach us about both levels of confidence, and how mastering each level can take you from being nervous to completely confident in any situation.


    0:41 - Lesson #1: His relaxed body language.
    2:58 - Lesson #2: Don is non-reactive.
    5:18 - Lesson #3: He doesn’t try to convince other people.
    6:57 - Lesson #4: The belief that he will be okay, no matter what.

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  • 이한
    이한  1 hours back

    6:26 Andy?? What are you doing there???

    • Ty K Holland
      Ty K Holland  2 hours back

      *Wait, that guy wasn't John Hamm? Okay.*

      • 원인재
        원인재  3 hours back

        i will be ok no matter what

        • Your mah Buddy
          Your mah Buddy  4 hours back

          I just can’t be confident whatever i do

          • Don R. Mueller, Ph.D.
            Don R. Mueller, Ph.D.  4 hours back

            Always wear your jockstrap inside your suit.

            • Ernesto Lara
              Ernesto Lara  4 hours back

              I learned so much...

              • BRIGHT KALKIDEV
                BRIGHT KALKIDEV  6 hours back


                • Mikki
                  Mikki  6 hours back

                  This is basically just the alpha male archetype.

                  • Reality Check
                    Reality Check  7 hours back

                    Do I really want to emulate Don Draper? Do I want to learn to learn from a womanizer and serial adulterer? Also, I hate cigarettes! No thanks!

                    • Chris
                      Chris  8 hours back

                      It's a bit lame to analyse the behaviours of a fictitious person and put a lot of weight on them.

                      • Kaynisha Mahalingam
                        Kaynisha Mahalingam  8 hours back

                        Yo, anyone know the name of this movie?

                        • Daniel Reborn
                          Daniel Reborn  10 hours back

                          Don is an actor playing in predictive scripted environment.Your interviews breakdowns are much better

                          • warsuals
                            warsuals  14 hours back

                            im confident . . . im going to screw it up

                            • anthony patterson
                              anthony patterson  14 hours back

                              This is a fake person in scripted scenarios. Just be yourself in life.

                              • suraj amom
                                suraj amom  15 hours back


                                • Desert Sky
                                  Desert Sky  19 hours back

                                  Life imitating art

                                  • Syntax Error
                                    Syntax Error  20 hours back

                                    Yes, my parachute didn't open up during a jump. I knew that if I died, I'd be fine. And if I were to break my back and end up in a wheel chair, I'd be fine anyway. I didn't make it, so upon entering the next world, I gave Satan a firm handshake, and I just knew I'd be fine.

                                    • Patrick Oliver Bustamante

                                      That ending gives me chills..

                                      • SteveGiggles
                                        SteveGiggles  1 days back

                                        You know these are characters right? Scripts and what not?

                                        • Bucket List Badass
                                          Bucket List Badass  1 days back

                                          HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE: Step #1...Don't GAF what people think of you. They are just as afraid or unknowing as you. Step the alpha FIRST! 2 alphas can not dominate the same situation. Congrats! You're done! Send me $9.99 for your certificate! lol

                                          • Titus
                                            Titus  1 days back

                                            Dude, spoilers...

                                            • Paul H
                                              Paul H  1 days back

                                              I want a video about how be more like DAVE Draper.

                                              • Ohaiderepeeps
                                                Ohaiderepeeps  1 days back

                                                I dont know who Don Drapper is and i've never watched the show. But it seems like a great show for autistic children..

                                                like me.

                                                • happy
                                                  happy  1 days back

                                                  Time indeed goes on faster when your mind is being filled with stressful thoughts.
                                                  As the most powerful law of the human mind says, the more feelings of something, the more of that something shall be added.
                                                  The more feelings of having no time, the more incompetency of managing your time shall be added.
                                                  It even goes as far as the more feelings of confidence - which would come from a confident body language - the more confidence shall be added. Feelings of wealth, feelings of things going right or wrong, feelings of being attractive...

                                                  • Average Black Degenerate Degenerate

                                                    learn how to be this or that based on hollywood movies ya please fart fart fart

                                                    • xero3a
                                                      xero3a  1 days back

                                                      Some of us can't just "pause" because it gives us too much time to think about the extreme nature of our emotions, and how it effects our current situation. Almost like being locked in fear and realizing your locked. Not having anyway to break out of it until the situation has passed.

                                                      • Malcolm Osburne
                                                        Malcolm Osburne  1 days back

                                                        These same tactics are used by many politicians. Many are in jail and the rest we wish were not in office.
                                                        Good tactics for person growth, but also tactics used by toxic people till it fails.
                                                        Maybe, just maybe be true and honest.

                                                        • Nenad Kralj
                                                          Nenad Kralj  1 days back

                                                          (: that's all is me :)

                                                          • Scott Fulps
                                                            Scott Fulps  2 days back

                                                            Great video.

                                                            • Dopey Tripod
                                                              Dopey Tripod  2 days back

                                                              Ummm, what do you do if you run in to another person who commits identity theft, becomes a borderline alcoholic and routinely commits adultery????? RUN?

                                                              • Andrew Gosselin
                                                                Andrew Gosselin  2 days back

                                                                Confidence is not planting a tree in a forest, because the forest may burn down. Confidence is not knowing the earth because the earth changes everyday. Confidence is knowing how to get it all back.

                                                                • Joey RuizChavez
                                                                  Joey RuizChavez  2 days back

                                                                  So what is the 30% rule?

                                                                  • NO TABOOS
                                                                    NO TABOOS  2 days back

                                                                    Childish nonsense.

                                                                    • Jessjess23 Brooks
                                                                      Jessjess23 Brooks  2 days back

                                                                      Everyone wants to be Don Draper, especially Don Draper.

                                                                      • Chess Minutes
                                                                        Chess Minutes  2 days back

                                                                        This is bizzare. Look what humanity has come to. A YouTube channel trying to teach people how to be confident by using the scenes filmed in a TV show in which the actor is pretending to be a character and pretending to act the way the director told him to do so.

                                                                        True confidence isn't an act. True confidence is not being affected by what others think of you. Being true to yourself. Not "acting" in order to create an image of yourself in the other's mind so that they can praise you and satisfy your whims.

                                                                        • Mx Mx
                                                                          Mx Mx  2 days back

                                                                          Just be handsome and use 2k suits.

                                                                          • mistyaqua
                                                                            mistyaqua  2 days back

                                                                            Uhhhhhh spoiler alert ??

                                                                            • observer7418
                                                                              observer7418  2 days back

                                                                              I can't afford that

                                                                              • X2HaydeN2X
                                                                                X2HaydeN2X  2 days back

                                                                                This is just a show, its all fake. everything is scripted

                                                                                • Lara Smith
                                                                                  Lara Smith  2 days back

                                                                                  🦋When you have faith in God it’s easy to be confident

                                                                                  • Spörde Spyrdenstein
                                                                                    Spörde Spyrdenstein  2 days back

                                                                                    1) own a FAL
                                                                                    that is all

                                                                                    • foramagasobeselettucepurplergasmup

                                                                                      Great tips for a job interview

                                                                                      • OtsanMusic
                                                                                        OtsanMusic  2 days back

                                                                                        Ah man, just when I was about to subscribe to the channel and give you a thumbs up you reveal that you are just a seller trying to get me to buy some program :-(

                                                                                        • Kevin Goetz
                                                                                          Kevin Goetz  2 days back

                                                                                          bottle of Scotch & 3 packs of cigarettes per day seem essential

                                                                                          • Stephen Young
                                                                                            Stephen Young  3 days back

                                                                                            cool video

                                                                                            • Red Pilled Fox
                                                                                              Red Pilled Fox  3 days back

                                                                                              You're teaching people how to be confident using a TV character played by an actor? OK, got it!

                                                                                              • roydizle
                                                                                                roydizle  19 hours back

                                                                                                And if you wanted to learn to appear more confident you will also be an actor at first until it becomes second nature

                                                                                              • Rich Haik
                                                                                                Rich Haik  20 hours back

                                                                                                Its an eample bud, no different than choosing anyone else, real or fake

                                                                                            • Nico Engebret
                                                                                              Nico Engebret  3 days back

                                                                                              Learning about "how to be confident" does not matter unless we address WHY we're not confident. It is mostly because of the lack of feeling safe, in some shape or form. We carry around with us trapped and unexpressed emotions that on the surface feels and looks like what we experience as nervousness, shyness, anxiousness etc.

                                                                                              Allow yourself to feel unsafe. Feel it. This can be VERY difficult at first and sometimes it's good to have someone with you, whether it's a close friend or a group. And I'm talking about the kind that WILL NOT JUDGE YOU. The kind of people that you'd feel safe enough to feel unsafe. And then it's a matter of leaping. You gotta feel it.

                                                                                              This is why you really just have to watch the last two minutes of this video(Sorry @Charisma on Command) about Don being at the retreat. A great example of that feeling your trapped emotions is of utmost importance. Do this and everything else in the video will naturally fall into place, without having to rehearse or pretend. It will be authentic. It will be REAL confidence :)

                                                                                              • Gr8 1
                                                                                                Gr8 1  3 days back

                                                                                                Awesome channel