How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

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  • Published: 12 June 2011
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    Mel Robbins is a married working mother of three, an ivy-educated criminal lawyer, and one of the top career and relationship experts in America. Widely respected for her grab-'em-by-the-collar advice and tough love, Robbins drills through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want. Her approach is smart, effective and entertaining. Five days a week, Mel hosts her own syndicated radio show The Mel Robbins Show, discussing hot topics and giving advice to callers across America. She is starring in a new series, In-Laws, airing this summer on A&E. In addition, she writes a monthly column for Success Magazine, is a former CNBC contributor and is the co-founder of Advice for Living, Inc., which develops products and television programming with experts in the wellness, health, relationship and career categories.

    Most nights, once the kids are in bed, you'll find Mel at home with a bourbon on the rocks and her Australian Shepherd at her feet, writing about life, love and everything else on her award-winning blog: www.melrobbins.com

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Comments • 10 116

  • Jon W
    Jon W  6 minutes back

    I want to know how to stop screwing myself and how to screw you, Mel..

    • Novelty
      Novelty  8 hours back

      Extraordinary

      • Kay D.
        Kay D.  15 hours back

        I love her energy!

        • Infinitee Prospecting
          Infinitee Prospecting  1 days back

          I appreciated title 😂 this ladie is fierce, funny and blunt, she's. Amazing, who is she ?

          • Diane Garcia Piro
            Diane Garcia Piro  1 days back

            Love watching

            • Judit Low
              Judit Low  1 days back

              I watched half of it, and there was not yet one useful advice in this talk.

              • Judit Low
                Judit Low  1 days back

                Mama Mia. I don't know anything about this lady but one thing is very obvious, that she needs God. Where is her humility, pure heart?

                • Twenty Cent
                  Twenty Cent  2 days back

                  Thankyou. This is exactly what i needed to hear ❤️

                  • yuno
                    yuno  2 days back

                    the point is being powerful in life and not weak. (the force)

                    • Tom Chrissy
                      Tom Chrissy  2 days back

                      400,000,000,000 = 400 billion not trillion unless the camera man cut you off ?

                      • Davidea Siebert
                        Davidea Siebert  2 days back

                        so many have their arms crossed not buying it. avoidance response

                        • kataJS1
                          kataJS1  3 days back

                          The outcome of the video - make everyone feel bad about themselves and that what they do to make them feel comfortable is wrong...what a piece of b...cks

                          • May F
                            May F  4 days back

                            Wow i feel like this anda I'm only 19

                            • Muhammad Rauf Mughal
                              Muhammad Rauf Mughal  4 days back

                              What if your home environment doesn't allow you to force yourself to work hard and it chains you

                              • nanyaverey
                                nanyaverey  4 days back

                                I find the video unhelpful. Talking down, pressure and telling me what to do is not the way I get motivated - I benefit more from a gentler, more accepting approach. After all, it's not the successes that make us happy. Wellbeing matters the most, maybe not in corporate culture, maybe not in America, maybe not among the motivational coaches, but at the end of the day, you need to be happy for yourself and not for all these people.

                                • Eric Ellis
                                  Eric Ellis  4 days back

                                  This woman lives her truth. About 15 years ago, I was sitting in 28 Degrees, a bar in Boston that is no longer in existence. I was alone, drinking and watching a guy across the bar. A guy who was WAY out of my league. I mean, strikingly handsome and perfect in every way. I’d resigned myself to an evening of drinks, some food, and a nice walk home... alone. And then in walked Mel. She asked to sit at the seat beside me. As you can imagine, before too long, we were chatting. She was waiting on her husband and friends who’d been to the Red Sox game, and before you know it, we were best buds. As you can imagine, it didn’t take long before she’d sussed out my interest in the guy across the bar. The hilarity of the moment is that it IS this TEDx video. Why don’t you think you could get him? Why is he out of your league? What's holding you back? Go talk to him! Ask him to come over! etc… etc… and before you know it said “perfect guy” was sitting next to us at the bar and Mel was conveniently moving on to meet her husband and friends. Her truth is simple; the reality is real. Although the perfect guy didn’t last past a few months, it did establish a confidence in me that I still carry today. Thank you, Mel. You are amazing!

                                  • Alessandro De Pasquale

                                    I want this woman to be my mom

                                    • SUPG
                                      SUPG  4 days back

                                      Cant help my dad come back

                                      • Dilara Durmaz
                                        Dilara Durmaz  5 days back

                                        05:55

                                        • Trevor D'silva
                                          Trevor D'silva  6 days back

                                          This was amazing..

                                          • :Krystal-Mare Of-The:Nymann.-Family

                                            mel robbins
                                            i absolutely love you and want to add you to my life you are wonderful

                                            • The Black Maven
                                              The Black Maven  6 days back

                                              Awesome. I cried when she said we talked our selves into thinking were ok with never having it

                                              • nelfid1
                                                nelfid1  6 days back

                                                man i love the attitude of this lady she an amazing motivational speaker. these tips are all gold. thank you

                                                • Abigail SSNA
                                                  Abigail SSNA  7 days back

                                                  This I was dope . Thank you

                                                  • Shevin Vouce
                                                    Shevin Vouce  7 days back

                                                    Very inspiring
                                                    Go do it

                                                    • Aisha Drame
                                                      Aisha Drame  1 weeks back

                                                      Best Ted Talk ever.

                                                      • Marieke
                                                        Marieke  1 weeks back

                                                        Ok... the problem is... I don't know what I want.

                                                        • mostmint
                                                          mostmint  1 weeks back

                                                          My impulse is to go back to sleep.

                                                          • Lianne Estandarte
                                                            Lianne Estandarte  1 weeks back

                                                            i thought about fried chicken when she said what do i want. hahahaha

                                                            • Harrison Turnipseed
                                                              Harrison Turnipseed  1 weeks back

                                                              *Continues to stream TED talks* "Yeah, I'm gonna change."

                                                              • Victor Taylor
                                                                Victor Taylor  1 weeks back

                                                                Simple concept, but very, very true. This one of the better 20 minutes I’ve ever spent.

                                                                • Aranzahas
                                                                  Aranzahas  1 weeks back

                                                                  My husband's here 😏

                                                                  • vrun s
                                                                    vrun s  1 weeks back

                                                                    This is so cool

                                                                    • jerry wormer
                                                                      jerry wormer  1 weeks back

                                                                      go one step further in a morning. go straight into a freezing cold shower. its the last thing you will feel like doing but just do it! im always glad i did after it and im energised instead of sleepy. it gets easier the more you do it but il only do it first thing il not do it later in the day.

                                                                      • Sharleen O Reilly
                                                                        Sharleen O Reilly  1 weeks back

                                                                        Currently watching this in bed....🙈😂

                                                                        • RishRYK & Republic Of Sellers

                                                                          Gary we got his 400 trillion to 1 here ! Wow

                                                                          • Vikas Sharma
                                                                            Vikas Sharma  2 weeks back

                                                                            these tedtalks are awesome. brothers up your day and motivates you to restart and fight again. we at insuringgurgaon have a special screening of these videos for our sales team. thank you! you guys rock.

                                                                            • Sheep keeper- راعي الغنم

                                                                              i'm just losing the control of my life )):

                                                                              • C n
                                                                                C n  1 weeks back

                                                                                Wish I was an expert in dealing with your frustrations, but maybe, take only one item at a time to gain some control. Good luck and be kind to yourself. You'll make it. Carol

                                                                            • Lilian Houlind
                                                                              Lilian Houlind  2 weeks back

                                                                              Some peptalk...but she is right...why not,just do it...and ill be right...bravo.

                                                                              • Patson Lim
                                                                                Patson Lim  2 weeks back

                                                                                i am not you google i am not any of you technology fraud people you might not like me for saying this but all of your are a fraud you know you have no real income and all your expenses are sustained by cooking up fake numbers to impress less seasoned investor to maintain your stock price people who are rather poor and have no future who pay their credit card minimum payment every month are the ones that you are defrauding to buy your stock with money they don't have they are currently holding and holding thinking they will make a fortune but in the end they will lose everything to people like me this is a fact.

                                                                                • Joy Drane
                                                                                  Joy Drane  2 weeks back

                                                                                  I Love you Mel Robins!

                                                                                  • Luis Erlacher
                                                                                    Luis Erlacher  2 weeks back

                                                                                    Solaranlagenlaserturm mit Robotern in den Himmel bauen.

                                                                                    • Roy Thomas
                                                                                      Roy Thomas  2 weeks back

                                                                                      400 *Billion*

                                                                                      • Roy Thomas
                                                                                        Roy Thomas  2 weeks back

                                                                                        Good talking though, truthfully

                                                                                    • Kathy Maslowski. Bright Flower Therapies

                                                                                      Awesome x 🙏🌟

                                                                                      • Rafael Murta
                                                                                        Rafael Murta  2 weeks back

                                                                                        400,000,000,000,000 or 400 x 10^12 is what 400 trillion looks like

                                                                                        • bongane lebopo
                                                                                          bongane lebopo  2 weeks back

                                                                                          Basically a TED Talk about Nike's Slogan

                                                                                          • Felix Rotbuche
                                                                                            Felix Rotbuche  2 weeks back

                                                                                            50% of the show was just self advertisement. 30% was just making promises and only about 20% was actually something

                                                                                            • Kor Na Xon
                                                                                              Kor Na Xon  2 weeks back

                                                                                              Not bad, compared to people in RL usually not reaching 5% of the 'actually something'.

                                                                                          • Clint Lunde
                                                                                            Clint Lunde  2 weeks back

                                                                                            What were the odds of Doug wearing that shirt & getting on a TedTalk with 21+ million views?