How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

  • Published: 12 June 2011
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    Mel Robbins is a married working mother of three, an ivy-educated criminal lawyer, and one of the top career and relationship experts in America. Widely respected for her grab-'em-by-the-collar advice and tough love, Robbins drills through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want. Her approach is smart, effective and entertaining. Five days a week, Mel hosts her own syndicated radio show The Mel Robbins Show, discussing hot topics and giving advice to callers across America. She is starring in a new series, In-Laws, airing this summer on A&E. In addition, she writes a monthly column for Success Magazine, is a former CNBC contributor and is the co-founder of Advice for Living, Inc., which develops products and television programming with experts in the wellness, health, relationship and career categories.

    Most nights, once the kids are in bed, you'll find Mel at home with a bourbon on the rocks and her Australian Shepherd at her feet, writing about life, love and everything else on her award-winning blog:

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Comments • 9 696

  • christie webb
    christie webb  2 hours back

    Who is Ted?

    • Sukh Atwal
      Sukh Atwal  20 hours back

      I love her skirt 😻

      • Catt Berlin-George
        Catt Berlin-George  23 hours back

        This is all common sense. Why do we need people like this and many many others to tell us what we already know? All it takes is to sit with yourself and listen to your inner voice and you will know the things you need to do for and with yourself.

        • Cuishi10
          Cuishi10  1 days back

          "100 million Americans are dissatisfied with their lives"....Well, I mean if they weren't such dicks🙄🙄

          • QUIXOTIC
            QUIXOTIC  2 days back

            Mel Robbins rocks. Not tough love but rather cut the excuses and get to the real point

            • gcjpcrowder
              gcjpcrowder  2 days back

              Im just saying real content doesnt necessitate threatrics. This kind of "energy" just makes me think "bunk"

              • Rachel
                Rachel  3 days back

                2:57 miss mel just read me to filth

                • panshu t
                  panshu t  3 days back


                  • Moon Dancer
                    Moon Dancer  3 days back

                    Nobody can help you get what you want! Do it yourself!

                    • God Love
                      God Love  3 days back

                      i am doing what i want to do i am just getting blocked, hidden and buried.

                      • lerche noire
                        lerche noire  3 days back

                        I love how inspiring this woman is, but I already have trouble following my impulses too readily. I have had so many jobs, a couple divorces, and always looking for the next thing that I want. What my life could use is some stability and less debt. She still is really funny, though.

                        • Lakshmi Muralidharan
                          Lakshmi Muralidharan  4 days back

                          Thank you! I bless you with love and light!

                          • Jackie Diaz
                            Jackie Diaz  4 days back

                            She’s so confident! I want that!

                            • Martina Prochazkova
                              Martina Prochazkova  4 days back

                              so annoying

                              • Manuel T
                                Manuel T  4 days back

                                at least a real woman.

                                • Manuel T
                                  Manuel T  4 days back

                                  she is more though more structured. sure assertive

                                  • M.Adventure
                                    M.Adventure  4 days back

                                    I got the impulse to give this video a like

                                    • Harshad Achrekar
                                      Harshad Achrekar  5 days back

                                      Beautiful video can you give me same video but deferent topic

                                      • triclone123
                                        triclone123  5 days back

                                        I needed this stuff. Straight to it. Thanks!

                                        • Ivan Cannon
                                          Ivan Cannon  6 days back

                                          I want to choke her... just until she stops talking.

                                          • Genn S.
                                            Genn S.  5 days back

                                            Ivan Cannon 😂

                                          • Ivan Cannon
                                            Ivan Cannon  5 days back

                                            @Genn S. ... I didn't know how much I didn't want to watch it until I watched it... and I was eager to find you, Captain S, defender of those who don't need any because they are just so awesome compared to all the losers who don't enjoy selling their souls for a little cheese.

                                          • Genn S.
                                            Genn S.  6 days back

                                            why are you wasting your time watching something you don't like?

                                        • Prasanth John
                                          Prasanth John  6 days back

                                          She is amazing; how effortlessly she talks while walking around. Awesome!! Loved the idea of pushing ourselves to get what we want.

                                          • r bajaj
                                            r bajaj  7 days back

                                            The "not feel like doing" thing is all over the place. And actually you need only a small amount of Force "to do it anyway".

                                            • deprofundis
                                              deprofundis  1 weeks back

                                              "You have life-changing ideas for a reason...and it's not to torture yourself." I'm putting my favorite quotes from this video here so that I can come back and be reminded. Best TED talk I've seen yet.

                                              • Le Son
                                                Le Son  1 weeks back

                                                Love the title itself.

                                                • Laurent PM Pingault
                                                  Laurent PM Pingault  1 weeks back

                                                  American people are stuck because law gives them only 2 weeks a year on vacations

                                                  • Genn S.
                                                    Genn S.  3 days back

                                                    M C yes I understand and agree with you.. God bless us all

                                                  • M C
                                                    M C  3 days back

                                                    Other people are stuck because they have nothing to eat and nowhere to go.
                                                    U should be lucky to have a job and food on ur table , with 2 weeks of paid vacation on top.

                                                  • Genn S.
                                                    Genn S.  6 days back

                                                    its not just America....I live in Canada

                                                • Aya Soujae
                                                  Aya Soujae  1 weeks back


                                                  • Self-Rewarding Qbits Under Human Control

                                                    Mel, I need my room to be cleaned.

                                                    • Blazing 647
                                                      Blazing 647  1 weeks back

                                                      It's not about what you feel, it about what you want. If you keep depending on your feeling to get what you WANT you are not going to make it. Good.

                                                      • Mohammad Syed Salman
                                                        Mohammad Syed Salman  1 weeks back

                                                        Who else couldnt resisit the caption? :D

                                                        • Anne Cill
                                                          Anne Cill  1 weeks back

                                                          Oh so I gotta do it in 5 sec

                                                          • Anne Cill
                                                            Anne Cill  1 weeks back

                                                            In a few months I will be exploring the world and expanding

                                                            • Anne Cill
                                                              Anne Cill  1 weeks back

                                                              Must not self sabotage

                                                              • Jennifer Wilson
                                                                Jennifer Wilson  1 weeks back

                                                                LOL i feel attacked

                                                                • PASU vlogs
                                                                  PASU vlogs  1 weeks back


                                                                  • Kim Bong Pun
                                                                    Kim Bong Pun  1 weeks back

                                                                    I wanna draw. I am going 5....4...
                                                                    I am already gone

                                                                    • Kim Bong Pun
                                                                      Kim Bong Pun  1 weeks back

                                                                      She tries so hard but the talk is as usual good

                                                                      • Israel Canepa
                                                                        Israel Canepa  1 weeks back

                                                                        I'm I the only one crying?

                                                                        • Joseph Gotalle
                                                                          Joseph Gotalle  2 weeks back

                                                                          bonjour, est il possible de visualisé cette vidéo avec une traduction en Français ?

                                                                          • Akshit Gupta
                                                                            Akshit Gupta  2 weeks back

                                                                            She sounds like jennifer aniston!!

                                                                            • Your Creator God
                                                                              Your Creator God  2 weeks back

                                                                              I want to be pain free

                                                                              • Ayi Agustiasari
                                                                                Ayi Agustiasari  2 weeks back

                                                                                I have the 5-second moment every 10 seconds of my life. So thankful for this video.

                                                                                • Taca Maca
                                                                                  Taca Maca  2 weeks back

                                                                                  i cant listen you,you are such an manipulator

                                                                                  • Jessica Brown
                                                                                    Jessica Brown  2 weeks back

                                                                                    I love this woman so happy she has a new show coming out in a couple of weeks!! <3

                                                                                    • PhoenixDown
                                                                                      PhoenixDown  2 weeks back

                                                                                      USE THE FORCE YOU!!

                                                                                      • Bob Sobus
                                                                                        Bob Sobus  2 weeks back

                                                                                        This does work- IF you want it to, and it is true that you have to work for it.
                                                                                        Still the best times of my life have been very active and productive times.
                                                                                        I'm doing it. So can You!

                                                                                        • ian413
                                                                                          ian413  2 weeks back

                                                                                          The number on screen behind her is....400 billion !

                                                                                          • Tim Cliffe
                                                                                            Tim Cliffe  2 weeks back

                                                                                            My soul weeps

                                                                                            • Tim Cliffe
                                                                                              Tim Cliffe  2 weeks back

                                                                                              For the last 17 years I have done nothing but help people get everything they want. Well guess that pretty covers life.