• Published: 30 January 2019
  • As you learn more about narcissism, you may uncover a distinct lack of conscience in some. You wonder, "Am I dealing with a sociopath, or worse? Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter explains commonalities and distinctions regarding narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths.

    Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. Over the past 39 years he has conducted many workshops and over 60,000 counseling sessions.

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  • Richard Tarvin
    Richard Tarvin  11 minutes back

    Mental bondage , i know how it feels

    • Von Musklaus
      Von Musklaus  11 hours back

      I think I am all 3 of these?

      • cashh fetishh
        cashh fetishh  19 hours back

        How do I stop being a narcissistic sociopath?

        • HiddenWen
          HiddenWen  19 hours back

          Unfortunately, society has evolved to a place where narcissism is rampant. It's even hard to succeed in highly competitive work environments if you aren't one nowadays. The narcissist know how to self promote much better than normal people and put their needs and ambition ahead of everyone else, so they will usually get ahead at work.

          • bwanna23
            bwanna23  19 hours back

            Are there any cures or alleviations, or do these people need to be kept in cages?

            • Worrywart
              Worrywart  1 days back

              Let's see, which type is Donald Trump: a narcissist, a sociopath or a psychopath?
              Answer: YES!

              • Child advocate
                Child advocate  2 days back

                Oh my gosh this fully explains to me a person in my life. Narcissist/sociopath. Both. Exactly. Thank you.

                • Deb Morris
                  Deb Morris  2 days back

                  I realized as a very young child that my mother was mental by the way she treated me versus my sister and brother as my mother fits the psychopath category and I realized so very soon after marrying my husband that I had made a very huge 40 plus year mistake that my mother in law was a narcissist and that I had made a very huge mistake and over the years my husband has followed in his mother's narcissist ways and I am the target. My husband told me no divorce but he is not putting two and two together anymore and I can't live any more like this so he figures no divorce and he can still control me but he is so wrong as I won't let him do it to me any more..

                  • Vesna Masnić Galić
                    Vesna Masnić Galić  2 days back

                    Deb Morris. Congratulations. Feel your inner strength and you will succed. Good luck

                • Kathy Haga
                  Kathy Haga  2 days back

                  Yep, my ex is a sociopathic narcissist. Covert, and cerebral. This confirms it for me.

                  • Sue Kellar
                    Sue Kellar  2 days back

                    I wish I had of known about these different types years ago. I could have saved myself a lot of grief. And waisted years on hoping they would change.

                    • neon_ juju
                      neon_ juju  2 days back

                      many psychopaths are successful. they've learned consequences but still have no ability to feel remorse for screwing people over, which is what gives them the upper hand. as long as their cause it served, what happens to you is irrelevant. they're "smarter," less reckless or impulsive, and more chameleon-like than sociopaths are.

                      while you may recognize a sociopath, you wont recognize a psychopath at first glance... but they will mirror what you do. they watch you to learn how they should act or react. it is what they've done their entire life. if you laugh at something **completely** inappropriate, they will laugh too. that's a helpful indicator.

                      christian bale's character in american psycho is an excellent example of a narcissistic psychopath.

                      • Robin's journey
                        Robin's journey  2 days back

                        Thank u im new to your channel i think my boyfriend is all three Can he be all three behaviors??

                      • Lucky G
                        Lucky G  3 days back

                        I know of one Narcissist. You described all the characteristics so accurately.

                        • Meg Pie
                          Meg Pie  3 days back

                          Is it possible for someone to be all 3? I swear I thought the person I am referring to was only a narcissist but now I truly believe he is a combination of all 3

                          • Katie Takeuchi
                            Katie Takeuchi  4 days back

                            Dr Phil’s brother right?

                            • Kimberly Sizemore
                              Kimberly Sizemore  4 days back

                              My mom was a narcissistic sociopath. I can’t tell you the hell I lived through until she died. Actually I was hurt badly by her bc it made her feel better so I’m not sure if she might have been a psychopath. It’s time for me to open up about it bc I obsess about the things that happened. It’s like I can’t move past it bc I never had closure for it. Should I she a therapist or should I go to someone that can write for meds and stuff?

                              • Kimberly Sizemore
                                Kimberly Sizemore  4 days back

                                Thank you for replying. Knowledge is power that I can use

                              • Surviving Narcissism
                                Surviving Narcissism   4 days back

                                Here's the crummy news. Narcissism and sociopathy are not medical issues. And they tend to make poor candidates for counseling, although that is where you should start. Dr. C

                            • Brian Cee
                              Brian Cee  5 days back

                              It's money above all. That's what they want.

                            • oceanofemeralds
                              oceanofemeralds  5 days back

                              Do star signs come into this at all I wonder.

                            • TJoseph Yoakum
                              TJoseph Yoakum  5 days back

                              Very helpful! Thank you for doing these videos!
                              I have distanced myself considerably from these types of people,but have a good friend who recently got out of a HORRIBLE relationship with someone that ( by your definition here) is a sociopath at minimum..and I would actually( what you say here) call her a psychopath.
                              I always wondered where the line communicated that very well!

                              • Cody Gigas
                                Cody Gigas  5 days back

                                The more you learn, the more you find in the strangest places:

                                • Nathan Jones
                                  Nathan Jones  5 days back

                                  Their needs far outweigh your existence, and your needs mean nothing.
                                  They also like to control all of your relationships. Friends, family and child-parent relationships. It's how they control your perception of them, and others' perception of you.

                                  • Terri Manning
                                    Terri Manning  6 days back

                                    Your videos have helped keep me sane this past 16months . My relationship ended violently . It was sudden & extreme . I'm still confused about that?

                                    • Surviving Narcissism
                                      Surviving Narcissism   6 days back

                                      It can take a long time to unpack, particularly when you have to have ongoing contact due to a child. Stick with us! Dr. C

                                    • Terri Manning
                                      Terri Manning  6 days back

                                      I'm still in a endless cycle of fighting . I'm basically no contact/ smart contact because we share a son ...

                                  • Patrice Boivin
                                    Patrice Boivin  6 days back

                                    thank you for explaining the differences between the three

                                    • Jack Shaft
                                      Jack Shaft  7 days back

                                      It's OK to say hurtful things to people as long as some psychobabbler has labelled them first..

                                      • Peach
                                        Peach  7 days back

                                        How can I tell if I'm a narcissist?

                                        • Devon morrison
                                          Devon morrison  7 days back

                                          I think you should add that a psychopath can be dangerous. Not just you will be harmed. More emphasis. It has happened to me.

                                          • Karen Toohill
                                            Karen Toohill  1 weeks back

                                            Excellent information thank you

                                            • Kristin P
                                              Kristin P  1 weeks back

                                              I teach at a maximum security men's prison. I can tell that a few of my students are sociopaths and psychopaths. Could you please do a video on what behaviors they might exhibit in a classroom and how I as an instructor can effectively deal with them? Thanks.

                                            • LindyLooo99
                                              LindyLooo99  1 weeks back

                                              I did manage to get the last word because I typed out a message and sent it, then blocked..... it gave ME great happiness to stand up for myself... don't care at all what the other person did with the information. I'm done!

                                              • Dovie Young
                                                Dovie Young  1 weeks back

                                                Very interesting info. I was in a relationship just a few years ago and thankfully I seen all the signs of a narcissistic and left. Took me the last few years to get him to understand living with him was taking away my individuality as my own person. Great video!

                                                • Maria Joao Corro
                                                  Maria Joao Corro  1 weeks back

                                                  My ex was so sure that I was going to finish myself off that he took life insurance on me,9 years later he still follows me around

                                                  • olive attire
                                                    olive attire  1 weeks back

                                                    Good info.

                                                    • ron slaughter
                                                      ron slaughter  1 weeks back

                                                      Wondering if one or more Narcissist can and do come together for a common goal and do they interact well with each other ?

                                                      • ron slaughter
                                                        ron slaughter  1 weeks back

                                                        These Videos are fascinating ! Myself as well as I am sure many people just wish to live and navigate through life as pleasantly as possible and these videos and information there in is much needed so think you for what you are doing. I do wonder With Narcissist, Sociopath and Psychopaths how individually they operate with each other for instance A Narcissist with another Narcissist in the lets say the work place or school etc and then say a Narcissist hanging out with a Sociopath or a Psychopath. I believe I stumbled into a shop to work years ago and now I think I see how much danger I was really in at the time but didn't know it. These people do not have a tattoo on there forehead and we all are at a potential risk every day of being turned into a piece of hamburger.

                                                        • Rock Girl
                                                          Rock Girl  2 weeks back

                                                          Thank you. I’ve understood that my mother is a narcissist, but she goes an extra mile in her ability to hurt people, animals, property. I’ve since come to learn and accept that she is a psychopath. This has been difficult, just getting a grip on the narcissist thing was, I have more puzzle pieces to sort out. Thank for for breaking out the differences in these disorders.

                                                          • Jade O'Shaunessy
                                                            Jade O'Shaunessy  2 weeks back

                                                            I'm 68, I would have needed this is high school, even junior high
                                                            The sooner the better, if you might even find one or two in your own family
                                                            Which sets us up for meeting the next abuser, cuz this. Is what we're used to
                                                            Pray and meditate, they don't like God we are His creations and the narc hates us
                                                            They are are perfect lesson.....Don't pick up narcissitic fleas!!!
                                                            Love and hugs from Oregon

                                                            • ewan si batman
                                                              ewan si batman  2 weeks back

                                                              what if my dad has qualities evident in all 3?

                                                              • K King
                                                                K King  2 weeks back

                                                                Your describing all those who are in Washington DC, running our country. They are going to kill us all. Praying for All who are having to deal with these.

                                                                • Succeshero
                                                                  Succeshero  2 weeks back

                                                                  Thank you sir! 🙏🏻

                                                                  • Susan Jones
                                                                    Susan Jones  2 weeks back

                                                                    Its true V.Doniel I wish I'd known years ago.

                                                                    • Dawn Bailey
                                                                      Dawn Bailey  2 weeks back

                                                                      "You will be harmed ". I've watched this one before and those words go right through me. They're ominous and true. It seems narcissists can slide back and forth on the spectrum. Frightening. They dwell amongst us. Some of us have up close and personal experience. Take Dr. C. at his word. They are dangerous. "You will be harmed ".

                                                                      • T-Zay
                                                                        T-Zay  2 weeks back

                                                                        My mother and sister. No wonder they get along so well.

                                                                        • Da Coach
                                                                          Da Coach  2 weeks back

                                                                          Interesting. Definitely informative.

                                                                          • Pat Tedley
                                                                            Pat Tedley  2 weeks back


                                                                            • Tammy Olson
                                                                              Tammy Olson  2 weeks back

                                                                              Thanks for the comparison. I thought maybe he was a narcissist. He schemed and preyed on me. No remorse, and he completely dismissed his actions. 10 days after my cancer diagnosis I came home from work to find he had left. He ghosted me. The month prior to that he was in love with me.

                                                                              • New Wine for New Skins
                                                                                New Wine for New Skins  2 weeks back

                                                                                Is it possible for a woman to suffer these unforgiving, careless, blame- game traits? Or is this primarily a "man" disease?

                                                                                • New Wine for New Skins
                                                                                  New Wine for New Skins  2 weeks back

                                                                                  Do you believe (on most topics) there is a moral right and wrong in the ways human beings do things? Or is everything developed from a spirit of "Selfishness"...

                                                                                  • New Wine for New Skins
                                                                                    New Wine for New Skins  2 weeks back

                                                                                    Is it hard for these three types of people to say the word, "Sorry", and yruly mean it?

                                                                                    • T-Zay
                                                                                      T-Zay  2 weeks back

                                                                                      Many don't even acknowledge the word. If they tied to say it it'll come out as a hiss.