How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence

  • Published: 01 July 2019
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    Like it or not we have all been awkward at different points in our lives. Sometimes that awkwardness gets in the way of connecting with other people or even feeling confident in ourselves. Awkwardness doesn’t need to be the end of the line. In fact, if you handle yourself well you can turn awkwardness (whether it’s just a moment or a way of being) into confidence. Which is what we are covering in this video featuring Tom Holland.

    0:27 - Point #1: Adjust your body language.
    4:05 - Point #2: Handle friendly teasing.
    6:39 - Point #3: Tell your own embarrassing stories.
    9:37 - Point #4: Let go of managing people’s opinion of you.

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Comments • 4 873

  • Charisma on Command
    Charisma on Command   5 months back

    Sorry about the jarring switch to loud R&B music for the dance battle. We got copyright claimed for the original song and this is the best we can do with YouTube's editor. Next time we'll pick sweet royalty free music beforehand. Thanks for watching :-)

    • Phil Bemji
      Phil Bemji  3 weeks back

      why do you take gayness and campness as confidence?

    • SlimNubster
      SlimNubster  1 months back

      @Clemente Cusato dude yes. This song has come up in other videos and I've been trying for years to figure out the name!

    • tayokarate
      tayokarate  1 months back

      I still dont understand how closing palms suggests hiding things , does angone beleive in such s**

    • Semariion Rogers
      Semariion Rogers  3 months back

      Don't be sorry, this was great and you should be very proud of yourself

  • Rocky Balboa
    Rocky Balboa  3 hours back

    This video is nonsense! The truth is: JUST BE YOURSELF!! AND IF YOU ARE BEING SINCERE AND GENUINE? THEN IT WILL COME ACROSS.. IF YOU ARE TRYYYYYYYYYYING TO COME ACROSS A CERTAIN WAY? AND ITS BS??? IT WILL SHOW TO ANYONE PAYING CLOSE ATTENTION TO YOU!!! THERE IS NO SCIENCE TO THE TRUTH! ( SO please! charisma on command? find another way to make money. Youre hurting people here with your incorrect and potentially damaging, advice! )

    • Hunter
      Hunter  5 hours back

      Touch your friend lol

      • stick ninja
        stick ninja  10 hours back

        but he has so much more to talk about

        • Maxi_ Noob
          Maxi_ Noob  16 hours back

          Just fart in class twice

          • Joep de Liefde
            Joep de Liefde  18 hours back

            How do i stand normal

            • Andrew Weiss
              Andrew Weiss  11 hours back

              @Joep de Liefde What have you tried so far to fix it?

            • Joep de Liefde
              Joep de Liefde  14 hours back

              @Andrew Weiss i stand werid and akward

            • Andrew Weiss
              Andrew Weiss  16 hours back

              What do you mean?

          • kenjen.
            kenjen.  21 hours back

            5:48 - Does anyone know where can I find that jacket ?

            • Super God
              Super God  3 days back

              3:30 So, you're saying I should start doing pushups when I trip?

              • Marshall Sanders
                Marshall Sanders  3 days back

                You sound like Assistant Slinkman

                • Joseph McCracken
                  Joseph McCracken  4 days back


                  • Ash Geo
                    Ash Geo  4 days back

                    2:00 “Less trustworthy”

                    Shows Mark Zuckerberg


                    • Fid TGS
                      Fid TGS  4 days back

                      Who else here has difficulty in making eye contact with your friends even though you are close to them, or basically anyone in your family members ?

                      • Andrew Weiss
                        Andrew Weiss  16 hours back

                        Why do you think you struggle with that?

                    • Jeff Brown
                      Jeff Brown  5 days back

                      How long does it take to master the skills shown in the video? Especially in regards to Russell Brand and other comedians. Are these individuals intentionally processing and responding? Is this a learned skill for them? Or does the intentions, wit, and body language happen naturally for them?

                      • Andrew Weiss
                        Andrew Weiss  15 hours back

                        Definitely a learned skill! Is this something you're passionate about?

                    • Dash Man
                      Dash Man  5 days back

                      well that was fukin weird,,haha

                      • Unbiased Tobias
                        Unbiased Tobias  5 days back

                        Everyone who’s ever dawned The Spider-Man mantle has to wear a thong while in costume that’s the secret

                        • Thelonelyblondgirl
                          Thelonelyblondgirl  6 days back

                          Charisma +1

                          • James Benet
                            James Benet  6 days back

                            Excellent excellent excellent, very helpful, thank you !

                            • Creepiona
                              Creepiona  6 days back

                              That is actually the only one thing i am good at in rl conversations 😄😥

                              • Smidday
                                Smidday  7 days back

                                If someone is trying to intimidate you lock eyes with them but to make sure you don't break eye contact, pretend that you can see through their head. It can earn their respect and make them back off because they can't intimidate you. I do this by mistake and when I feel intimidated but it's always worked for me even though my hearts racing lol.

                                • NOBOX7
                                  NOBOX7  7 days back

                                  Wow they really do force all male actors to dress as women ???

                                  • Ainsley Burr
                                    Ainsley Burr  1 weeks back

                                    I'm a simple person - I see Tom Holland and I click

                                    • Starfishunion
                                      Starfishunion  1 weeks back

                                      Wow this was actually really helpful thx

                                      • Andrew Weiss
                                        Andrew Weiss  15 hours back

                                        What have you been able to play from it so far? :)

                                    • Roise Nguyễn
                                      Roise Nguyễn  1 weeks back

                                      How to turn awkwardness into confidence: being yourself :))

                                      • fedothepro
                                        fedothepro  2 weeks back

                                        It's an European thing to gesticulate

                                        • awerav 7
                                          awerav 7  2 weeks back

                                          Thank you very much to all and regards to all....🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

                                          • Bluewind57
                                            Bluewind57  2 weeks back

                                            I'll save you some time... the jist of this video is don't look down at the floor, move your hands a lot, and make poorly imitated voices while quoting someone.

                                            • Marilyn Mesa
                                              Marilyn Mesa  2 weeks back

                                              I talk with my hands sometimes but people will stare at my hands. All things don’t work under every circumstance. Just saying

                                              • Andrew Weiss
                                                Andrew Weiss  15 hours back

                                                Isn't it okay to talk with your hands?

                                            • mybar
                                              mybar  2 weeks back

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                                            • Hermany Samson
                                              Hermany Samson  2 weeks back

                                              Very clear and informative, thanks for sharing your video.

                                            • BrooketheBook Quintana
                                              BrooketheBook Quintana  2 weeks back

                                              I came for Tom Holland. Stayed for the message. Thanks for the tips guys!

                                              • Serg
                                                Serg  2 weeks back

                                                lost all respect for bro after that rhianna bit

                                                • Andy Kh
                                                  Andy Kh  2 weeks back

                                                  Hi Charisma on Command. Can you do a video about confidence for unattractive people? Almost all of your videos are about celebrities who are far more attractive than your average guy. Not all of us look like Tom Holland, can you make a video about some random indian guy or everyday average joe actually becoming confident and more charismatic despite their looks?

                                                  • Andrew Weiss
                                                    Andrew Weiss  15 hours back

                                                    What do you think is REALLY holding you back from being confident?

                                                • Just a Scunt
                                                  Just a Scunt  2 weeks back

                                                  Watching this for confession

                                                  • Zach H
                                                    Zach H  3 weeks back

                                                    I've got the most confusing emotions going on right now. Laughter, shock, awe, worry

                                                    • Zach H
                                                      Zach H  3 weeks back

                                                      I recognized it in that split second

                                                      • U1LV4R
                                                        U1LV4R  3 weeks back

                                                        I wanna feel more confident, not look confident.

                                                        • Andrew Weiss
                                                          Andrew Weiss  15 hours back

                                                          What do you think it would take for you to feel more confident? :)

                                                      • Marie A
                                                        Marie A  3 weeks back

                                                        This is the best video on youtube! Thank you so much omg ❤️

                                                      • Cordelia Splatastic
                                                        Cordelia Splatastic  3 weeks back

                                                        8:57 Actually,
                                                        I have a talent for impressions.
                                                        My friend says I'm so good that I could become a voice actor.
                                                        I really hope that's true.

                                                        • Andrew Weiss
                                                          Andrew Weiss  7 hours back

                                                          @Cordelia Splatastic Of course! You got this!

                                                        • Cordelia Splatastic
                                                          Cordelia Splatastic  8 hours back

                                                          @Andrew Weiss Thank you for the support!

                                                        • Andrew Weiss
                                                          Andrew Weiss  8 hours back

                                                          @Cordelia Splatastic That's great! Well I have connections in that field, so let me know if you'd like to connect!

                                                        • Cordelia Splatastic
                                                          Cordelia Splatastic  8 hours back

                                                          @Andrew Weiss Nowhere serious (yet), but I'm doing research on the topic, so I can pursue it further!

                                                        • Andrew Weiss
                                                          Andrew Weiss  11 hours back

                                                          @Cordelia Splatastic Great! Where can we see your content? :)

                                                      • hunter 101
                                                        hunter 101  3 weeks back

                                                        Its very obvious that this guy is fan of spider man

                                                        • Game Catz
                                                          Game Catz  3 weeks back

                                                          how can it take 11minutes to explain a 3 second rule?

                                                          • Whitney N
                                                            Whitney N  3 weeks back

                                                            dang. wish I had seen this video before undergrad

                                                          • Tamika Sterling
                                                            Tamika Sterling  3 weeks back

                                                            Omg they expect me to show my palms 😦 i could never!!

                                                            • Jordan Da Mocha
                                                              Jordan Da Mocha  3 weeks back

                                                              I'm a simple human i see Tom Holland I click... But the information was actually cool 👍🏼

                                                              • Anonymous
                                                                Anonymous  3 weeks back

                                                                It would be so embarassing if my family saw my search history and realised that I am watching videos on how to a more socially adapted human being

                                                                • Andrew Weiss
                                                                  Andrew Weiss  15 hours back

                                                                  What's wrong with wanting to improve yourself?

                                                                • The Stammering Dunce
                                                                  The Stammering Dunce  2 weeks back

                                                                  With my family, it would different. They would WANT me to watch such videos. They love shaming me for being awkward, which they consider as a sin. 🙄

                                                              • RavenClaw _girl
                                                                RavenClaw _girl  3 weeks back

                                                                Omg I knew it!!!!!

                                                                • Dorian Schütz
                                                                  Dorian Schütz  3 weeks back

                                                                  faaaake you cant face confidence. this guy is confident thats why he is like tis

                                                                  • John Doe
                                                                    John Doe  3 weeks back

                                                                    This woman narrating Is awesome!👌

                                                                    • TVG28
                                                                      TVG28  3 weeks back

                                                                      2:46 You absolute madlad